Monday, November 6, 2017
Offer to help people. ... When people say they're having trouble with something, try to find a way you can help.
You don't want to be a phony transactional networker. You want this to become an organic, serendipitous, natural friendship, right? Friends do each other favors. They don't have a goal or a payoff in mind. So rely on karma. There's plenty of research showing that trying to make others in your network happy makes the happiness come back to you. Happy friends will make you 15 percent more likely to be happy too. Even if a friend of a friend of a friend becomes happier, there is a 6 percent chance you will become happier. So don't worry about the payoff and don't ask for anything. this makes them feel good about you, and you feel good about yourself. You're just being a friend. And if you do offer some help, follow through.
(Warning: If you follow through with all this, you may accidentally wind up becoming a good person.)
-Eric Barker, as lifted from Barking Up The Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong