.................men and women from Matthew Crawford:
The most impressive and successful women, like their male counterparts, seem not to feel burdened with responsibility to advance the arc of History; they just do what they do, and find their satisfaction in meeting the demands of their craft.
But we have wandered off the topic of what makes men strong (answer: women who demand strength).
As Rousseau said, if you want to men to be virtuous, teach women what virtue is. . . . Men will make themselves into whatever women prefer.
. . . working-class women prefer their men to be manly, and in that respect may be said to accept male norms as valid, even crucial. The standard feminist response is to say that in doing so, they suffer a false consciousness that guarantees their subordination. But that is hard to square with what one sees. In fact, working class "patriarchy" can look an awful lot like matriarchy.
The very qualities that are called "toxic" in a man often seem to count as "empowerment" in a woman.
Administrative mandates and therapeutic regimens multiply—speech and behavior are ever more closely monitored—to protect the delicate sensibilities of our empowered young women.