A positive narrative.................

     A lot of the way we feel about ourselves comes from how we think we compare with others.  This robust and pervasive habit of mind impedes learning.  Luckily, habits can be changed, whether the habit is biting your nails or decrying your terrible luck when you lose.  By shifting what it is that makes us feel good about ourselves, we can move toward a more rational fielding of outcomes and a more compassionate view of others.  We can learn better and be more open-minded if we work toward a positive narrative driven by engagement in truthseeking and striving toward accuracy and objectivity:  giving others credit when it's due, admitting when our decisions could have been better, and acknowledging that almost nothing is black and white.

-Annie Duke,   Thinking In Bets:  Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts