"the antinomies resolved"...........

When we look for answers to the questions we have been discussing, we find, curiously enough, that every answer seems to somehow impoverish the problem.  Every answer sells us short;  it does not do justice to the depth of the question but transforms it from a dynamic human concern into a simplistic, lifeless, inert line of words.  Hence, Denis de Rougement says, at the end of his Love in the Western World, that there "probably aren't any answers."
     The only way of resolving—in contrast to solving—the questions is to transform them by means of deeper and wider dimensions of consciousness.  The problems must be embraced in their full meaning, the antinomies resolved even with their contradictions.  They must be build upon; and out of this will arise a new level of consciousness.  This is as close as we shall ever get to a resolution; and it is all we need to get.  In psychotherapy, for example, we do not seek answers as such, or cut-and-dry solutions to the question—which would leave the patient worse off than he originally was in his struggling.  But we seek to help him take in, encompass, embrace, and integrate the problem.  With insight, Carl Jung once remarked that the serious problems of life are never solved, and if it seems that they have been solved, something important has been lost.

-Rollo May,  Love And Will