But, that's what we did. Something about "self-esteem." Turns out that maybe this whole "self-esteem' movement, aka "the empty praise movement," has damaged a generation or two of youngsters. Full essay is here. A few excerpts here:
"Children who are told that they are brilliant do less well than do children who are praised for their effort."
"The empty praise movement taught parents and teachers to lie to children, systematically and shamelessly."
"It should not be surprising that the more you lie to children the less they will believe anything that you say."
"Children who are told that they are naturally talented and gifted conclude that they do not need to make an effort. They believe that their innate abilities will allow them to breeze through any task. If anything goes wrong they do not have a work ethic to allow them to soldier on."