Still surfing.........................

... surfing a wave has a distinctive kind of value.  Being adaptively attuned to a changing natural phenomenon, in part, by not needing to control it, is at once a kind of freedom, self-transcendence, and happiness.  Or so I will argue in later chapters.   To a surprising degree, I submit, what is valuable in human life is a matter of being adaptively attuned - a way of "surfing," in an extended sense.
    To surf, in general, is to be adaptively attuned to a changing pheomenon beyond oneself, for its own sake.  In a social form of adaptive attunement, you could "surf" through a conversation, a meeting at work, or a crowded street, going along with the flow of conversational or meeting dynamics, by staying attuned to other people and responding fluently in each new moment of cooperation.  Whatever else you might hope to achieve, you'd do that purposefully, with a certain awareness of its intrinsic value, partly for its own sake.  You'd give up seeking control, perhaps in order to keep cooperative relations sweet, for the feelings of harmonious social connection and the consequent sense of peace.

-Aaron James, Surfing With Sartre:  An Aquatic Inquiry Into A Life Of Meaning