Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it, to squash it, or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.
Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you're able to not give a fuck about pain, you become unstoppable.
In my life, I have given a fuck about many things. I have also not given a fuck about many things. And like the road not taken, it was the fucks not given that made all the difference.