paradox........

Perhaps the greatest paradox in the story of spirituality is the mystical insight that we are able to experience release only if we ourselves let go.  This is the paradox of surrender.  Surrender begins with the acceptance that we are not in control of the matter at hand—in fact, we are not in absolute control of anything.

-Kurtz and Ketcham, The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning